Again this week, we're talking about suicide.
First it was Kate Spade, sending shockwaves through the celebrity world and the world where we live and buy her purses and keychains and teapots.
We couldn't believe it. But the happy-go-lucky brand was just that. Her brand.
Now, we wake up and find that Anthony Bourdain is also gone. Also a shock to the celebrity world. And to those of us who watched him trying exotic foods and traveling to exotic places. Brash, opinionated. Again, a brand.
So we talk about suicide and urge those who are battling depression to seek help. But that's not the only role we can play.
And believe me, there's nothing worse than thinking something may be wrong and not speaking up.
This twitter thread is one of the best things I've read this week and I wanted to share it with you--
So many messages telling those who are struggling to reach out. Fair enough, but part of what depression does is mutes your ability to reach. If you are NOT depressed & you see someone struggling, YOU reach out. If you don’t see someone who used to be around, YOU reach out.— Caissie St.Onge (@Caissie) June 8, 2018
It can be kind of scary to a regular person who thinks they don’t know what to do. It is certainly awkward as hell. Who cares, though? Ask, “Are you ok?” Say, “I am worried about you.” Ask, “Can I get in touch with someone for you?” Even here on Twitter. Don’t mind your business.— Caissie St.Onge (@Caissie) June 8, 2018
The worst thing that could happen if you overstepped in your genuine concern is so much less bad than the worst thing that could happen if you didn’t. It is our duty to try for each other. And if you want to say something but you’re scared, ping me. I’m always here.— Caissie St.Onge (@Caissie) June 8, 2018
P.S. I want to say if someone you know died by suicide, it is not your fault. It is depression’s fault. I just want us to remember, if someone is on the side of the road with 4 flats, we shouldn’t drive by b/c we’re not the tow truck. We can all do something if we see something.— Caissie St.Onge (@Caissie) June 8, 2018
That being said, when someone opens up about their pain... listen.
That happened this week during our podcast.
Johnna opened up. We listened, we talked, we cried.
We didn't fix the problem... but you know what? She knows we're here for her, no matter what.
Everyone needs someone who's here for them. And she offers to be there for you, too, if you need her.
We're all in this together.